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Dealing With Insensitive Remarks

INSENSITIVE REMARKS ABOUT ANXIETYDealing with mental illness or disorder is not easy. Having people who don’t understand what you are going through is much worse. These comments come different people, and the effect they have varies. Even our closest family member may give remarks that can really get to us and have serious negative effects. Whether they mean in or not, not letting those remarks get into is very important. Here are the things that you could do when you hear insensitive remarks:

1. Shrug it off – This is the most common advice people give, but this could be one of the difficult to follow. Shrugging off hurtful remarks is like trying to deflect a bullet. You cannot un-hear the statement, but you can prevent it from eating you up. Most of the time, people giving negative remarks about illnesses and disorders do not know what they are talking about. You, of all people, have the best knowledge about your situation.

2. Acknowledge  and correct the comment – Say it’s your sister who gave the comment. If you ignore it, there’s a very big chance she’ll say it again the next time she gets the chance. To prevent that from happening, gather the courage to acknowledge her remark and correct her. Tell her that you know where she’s coming from and understand what she’s saying but she’s wrong and explain why. Of course, you need to say all these without breaking down or raising your voice. Just explain nicely your situation. Chances are she’s gonna say sorry or never mention it again.

3. Educate them – They do not know what they’re talking about, and it’s best to let them know. If they do know what you are going through, they wouldn’t make such remark. If you can explain it scientifically, it would be helpful too. People tend not to argue when there are scientific explanations and proof presented. You don’t have to go all Einstein with them. While explaining, watch your tone. You need to sound calm, kind, and intelligent. If you go shouting, they’re more likely to believe they are right and you are defensive. Try telling about yourself and you battle. That way, they can somehow get into your brain and empathize with you.

4. Meditate – All remarks, though harsh and uneducated, have tiny bit of truth in them. Try not to get mad at them. Instead, use them in building yourself up for your own healing. The next time you hear a hurtful or insensitive remark, try to find the most useful truth in it and use it for your own good. It’s like solving a puzzle.

Remember that not all these remarks were aimed for you to feel bad. Sometimes, they’re just some advice that weren’t carefully thought of.

 

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