Parents cherish and treasure their kids more than anything else in the world. Sometimes, their lives revolve around them. This could be good and bad at the same time, but let’s talk about the fear of seeing your baby grow up.
Everyone grows up. We move from one phase of our life, to another. For some parents, it is hard to see their kids grow from the baby they need to carefully hold and protect, to someone who can independently live on their own. While it is normal to feel sad seeing your child move out or get married, some parents become depressed and develop anxiety because of it.
While the previously mentioned scenario is something that happens for later, there are parenting anxieties that can occur even in the early stages of a child’s development. Even seeing the transition from baby to toddler makes them anxious. Parental Separation Anxiety is very common among parents.
“They grow up so fast” is a common phrase that we hear among parents. However, people with parental Separation Anxiety are worried about this. Seeing their child becoming independent and not needing them may be their worst nightmare. Parental Separation Anxiety can be divided into 2.
First is the fear of being distanced from the child. They hate being away from their children. They don’t like the idea of school trips, and vacations without them are unbearable. They want to be with their children all the time. If not, they create scenarios in their head about the bad things that can happen to their children when they’re not around.
Second is the fear of losing the role as a parent. They feel the need to attend to all their children’s needs and fear the day that they won’t need them anymore. This usually happens later in life, when they realize that they kids are getting older and are already capable of caring for themselves.
While these things are very touching and quite common for parents, it can have negative effects to children. Some call it being “overprotective”. Being overprotective can hamper a child’s development. For example, when a parent doesn’t let the child join a school trip or join a camping, the parent is depriving the child of the things that are essential for his maturity. Same goes for not letting the child do certain tasks or doing it for him. As an effect, the child could be too attached to the parents (which isn’t exactly a bad thing) or develop certain anxieties as well (which is not really what the parents want, for sure.)
To overcome these things, parents should bear in mind that all parents go through the same things as you. Talking to other parents and sharing your insights and fears could help. Communicating with the children, especially during adolescence, is also very important. Create a strong bond between you and your children so you can trust each other.
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